“It’ll be funny in a couple of months”: Jane Doe texted with one of the men she later accused of assault

It was a Monday evening around dinner time when a text popped up on Jane Doe’s cellphone on Oct. 21, 2024, less than 48 hours after a night of excessive drinking, drug use and group sex at the Chi Phi fraternity house on the Cornell University campus. Over 10 days of intermittent texting, in messages obtained by CBS News New York, Doe told him to not feel shame and asked him to look for earrings she thought she lost that night.  

Cornell’s Title IX investigation would later find the man responsible for sexual assault and he was expelled, according to her lawyer and The New York Times. 

The two exchanged multiple friendly-sounding texts over three days from Oct 21-24, and then, after a week of silence, Jane Doe texted again pressing him to look for her lost earrings. 

Jane Doe’s lawyer, Thomas Giuffra, told CBS News her messages reflected “classic symptoms of delayed recognition,” calling it “a textbook response to sexual assault.”

The man is named in her civil lawsuit but has not been charged with a crime. CBS News is identifying him here and in other coverage as MALE 2, of the seven named in the suit. He has denied wrongdoing.

Here is the full text exchange, as obtained by CBS News New York, including messages that have not previously been reported:

Monday, Oct. 21, 2024

6:54 PM | [MALE 2]

Hey [JANE DOE] this is [MALE 2]. [REDACTED] gave me ur number. I just wanted to apologize for how things went down the other night. My memory’s kinda fuzzy abt a lot of it but me and [MALE 1] both feel like shit for being too f[—] up to shut it down and kick people out before it got way out of hand. You’re an amazing person and I genuinely hope ur not catching as much heat from this as we r. We’ve been shutting down any stories we’ve heard but again I’m so so sorry.

10:05 PM | JANE DOE

aw [MALE 2] i really appreciate this text. my memories super clouded too. i think we were all way to f[—]ing drunk and high. i’m getting a little heat (pi phi girls ([REDACTED] and [REDACTED]) can’t get my name out of their mouth)) but that’s to be expected. but at the end of the day non of the sexual stuff was illegal and honestly i really liked being w u and [MALE 1]. so anything anyone has to say about the gamgbang is out of their jurisdiction. i don’t think we should feel any shame for the part. our body our choice asf,,

also yes while it may have been nice for like only 4 people to have been around, yall were both super out of it and they should have taken it on themselves to leave. at the end of the day you, [MALE 1], and i were in your bed and they didn’t need to get up in that.

but if you have any regrets or anything you want to talk about i am always here to talk about it cause that was a lot. i really do love u and [MALE 1] and i promise i wont get quiet and weird w u like i did last time <4

p.s. i’m not sure if u remember but i did ket off your dick at some point ? and i honestly think that was one of the most insane/jaw dropping moments of the night

Tuesday, Oct. 22, 2024

1:09 AM |  [MALE 2]

I’m just glad ur ok, I was kinda upset w all the stories going around earlier but at the end of the day that’s all they r

[MALE 2]

And I have no memory of that last part😭

JANE DOE

oh jesus not the stories i don’t even think i wanna know. i know im socially a massive slut rn and i like can’t bare to hear it cause im really not.

JANE DOE (threaded reply to the message about having no memory)

insane truly

[MALE 2] (threaded reply to Jane Doe’s message about stories)

Funny enough I haven’t heard ur name yet in any of them, someone thought [REDACTED] od’d in the room tho

JANE DOE (marked “Edited” in screenshot)

i heard that one too but it was the night before??… honestly it was such a good time for it to happen cause i heard everyone went feral that friday and saturday

[MALE 2]

Oh ya it was

[MALE 2]

But pretty good timing, just makes everything less believable

JANE DOE

it’ll be funny in a couple months

[MALE 2]

So funny

JANE DOE

we should smoke again sometime but like leave out the extra 5 billion men and ketamine

[MALE 2]

Oh definitely

[MALE 2]

I’m off hard drugs for good

JANE DOE

oh also i lost two earrings so if u find them that’s my bad

JANE DOE

me too

[MALE 2]

I’ll look when I clean tmrw after class

JANE DOE

marked it on rice purity so i’m good i’ve got all the mom lore i need

[MALE 2]

😂

JANE DOE

✌️💋

Thursday, Oct. 24, 2024

1:16 AM | JANE DOE

[REDACTED] said i should talk to u rn? what happened

10:45 AM | [MALE 2]

Huh?

[MALE 2]

That’s odd nothing happened

12:03 PM | [MALE 2]

Ohh I was at pi phi last night I think that’s it

[MALE 2]

I went like fully prepared to be interrogated and deny everything but they never even brought it up

[MALE 2]

I think it’s mostly blown over by now

Thursday, Oct. 31, 2024

3:08 AM | JANE DOE

did you find my earrings my mom gave them to me for my birthday i really want them back

10:23AM | [MALE 2]

I’m sorry I havent’ seen them, I’ll look more when I get back from class what do they look like? 

4:08 PM | JANE DOE (Doe sends pic of her ear that shows lost earrings)

it’s the first and 3rd one

5:29 PM | [MALE 2]

Ok i’ll look rn